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It's Not You, It's Me.

(Okay...it might be a little bit of you as well but it's not your fault.)

FaceBook and I are not doing so well. This can't be an "only me" problem so I thought I would share. Senior year of high school is when I first joined the social network. It was new and everyone was excited about it. Tagged was played out and MySpace was getting weird. This is how the story went...

So here I am today, scrolling through my newsfeed unamused and wondering how I can fix this. My solution? Make a new page. Duh! I did and realized how boring my page was. All my pictures weren't there, all my friends were not added yet because I could not remember everyone, and I was back at square one, unsatisfied. So in an attempt to fix my problem yet again, I decided to delete friends from my old page. After about 10 minutes maybe 20 people were unfriended. Did you know that every time you unfriend a person the page has to refresh? Yeah it's the most agonized task ever. So I gave up on that and ended up here...writing this post. I know someone is reading this and saying just get off FaceBook all together. To that I say "No *insert grumpy cat face here*". I am on FaceBook for the entertaining group chats (the stickers are amazing on FB Messenger) with my favorite people and to be able to go down memory lane when I'm feeling nostalgic. I guess this summer will have be...

This relationship will be repaired and I will be happy. I don't want to be friends with couples, entertainers, party promoters, young bucks, catfishers, graduates of Hustle University, or game and interest group addicts. Im taking back my newsfeed and I encourage you to do the same. You don't have to suffer. It will get better.

Cruel Summer

Summer is quickly approaching so that means beaches and vacations galore. Swim suits will be in full effect and the agonizing task of finding the perfect one starts now. Since you can find a bikini in a size 10 and under virtually anywhere I decided to aid everyone else in their search for the perfect suit. Every body is a beach body.


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I did not care for the bottom that accompanies this top. It did not really embody my idea of high waisted. Thanks to the multi colors you can mix and match it with almost any bottom.


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I love this cover up. It can go from pool side to the casino easily.


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Plus size blogger GabiFresh created a line of plus size swimsuits that are absolutely amazing. Unfortunately the Galaxy two piece is sold out.





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Serve up an ole nasty piece of Annette Funicello this summer and find your summer romance.



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The cut on this suit and the ruching in the tummy is perfection.



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This suit is everything I tell you everything!



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This scuba style suit is so creative a beautiful. If you don't want to show your arms this is perfect.

Standing in your season

According to Merriam-Webster a season is a time characterized by a particular circumstance or feature. We are familiar with the seasons of weather, where nature either blooms or frosts, it is easy to determine those, and something we were all taught from childhood. However, can you define the seasons of your life?

People, places and things come into your life for a season. Very few remain permanent, however, what is important is that you differentiate a season from a lifetime.

You stand in seasons, as they help you define your life.

What exactly do I mean ‘standing in seasons’? Allow me to explain. Every season has to be weathered. Be it a good or bad job, good or bad relationship, or living situation. A season is that time period where you are exactly where you should be, to help you grow into what you will be.

It isn’t always easy to be where you are. It is quite easy to be antsy about life or try to advance before your time. Why? Because you think you belong there. You think you deserve something, or someone. It is often confused with ambition. However, throughout your season you start to notice how things fall together.

In the spring, the rain comes and brings the bloom. In autumn the trees lose their leaves and the ground hardens. Life’s seasons are no different. There will be times where things are just extraordinarily good. There will also be times where things are horribly wrong. Its how you weather or ‘stand’ in your season that counts. Just like nature’s seasons, we adapt to wearing coats or flip flops, same with life’s seasons. You will start to realize what needs to be done to get the promotion or job you want that will take you from that entry-level position. You will start to see people’s true colors, and be able to weed out the good from the bad.

Life’s seasons are temporary. They change all the time, however, when the change comes, the way you stood in your last season will determine your success in the next. So my encouragement today is no matter where you are in this walk of life, remember that everything happens for a reason and you are being prepared for the next level. So stand happily in that season, and wait for the next.

“The best is yet to come”- Somebody

Opinions are like....well you know

I find myself telling people this or at least wanting to quite frequently. Especially when it comes to my life decisions. Since it was Mother's Day everyone felt it necessary to wish me this as I passed them on the street. My response was either "don't you put that on me Ricky Bobby" or stare them down. In church several people decided to question why I was not a wife or mother yet.

 I honestly pity those who feel that is the main priority for all women. Yes one day I will put on a big white dress and sign over my freedom...just not anytime soon. I have my own thoughts on children, but that's a three page post in itself. There is happiness to be found in love and family, but why do  have to find it now? There is a world of opportunity waiting for me as an educated twenty something in America and I plan to explore all of it. 

I somehow entered into a conversation with someone who has been teaching for a long time and I was explaining to her the problems I am currently facing. She began questioning why I would even work with small children. You know all those high school kids who can't read well of course they can't because they didn't have anyone to guide them in their formative years. You're welcome. Ma'am I really just wanted a letter of recommendation. 

The best thing you can do for someone is to just listen. Not everyone needs a lecture just to get things are their chest. 

Rut 101

Lately I’ve been in rut. Nothing has been wholly bad, but it hasn’t been all that fantastic either. My life has just been a little lackluster. It’s like I’m missing something. I’d like to think that I’m not the only person that goes through this, that I’m not the only person that has these moments where I feel like I’m on an island with population one—me; in just this one case, I hope that I’m not unique. So what have I been doing to assuage this solitude? Well, a variety of things. Some are healthy ways to deal and others not so much. But I’m human, and life is all about balance. So here’s how I’ve been coping. SN: To save myself from appearing to be a slightly neurotic and unhealthy emotional person, I’ve indicated “unhealthy” and “healthy” next to each.

• Closed myself off from the outside world. This includes being short during conversations, avoiding gatherings, staying as far away from Social Media as I possibly can, and wearing a permanent scowl on a sunglasses-adorned face. Unhealthy.
• Listening to music artists that make me smile and believe momentarily that I am in a studio session with Pharell, Babyface, or Vincent Herbert. Healthy.
• Working out until I am literally dripping sweat and I feel like the only thing that is keeping my legs moving is gravity or some other higher force. Healthy.
• Making plans. And then cancelling said plans because I just want to be in the house. First part, healthy. Second part, falls under the whole closed off thing…unhealthy.
• Reading magazines, watching Fashion Police, marathons of Sex and the City and NBA playoff series games. Totally healthy.
• Shopping. Healthy.
• Spending too much money from said “healthy shopping.” Unhealthy.
• Playing in my makeup. Healthy.
• Reaching out to friends to talk. Healthy.
• Getting testy when friends aren’t available to talk and then ending up being rude to them. Unhealthy.
• Crying. My mom would call this healthy, I don’t.
• Wine.
• Wine.
• Wine.
• Wine.
• HEALTHY.
• Going to bed early. Healthy.
• Going to bed early because I want the day to be over with and then sleeping all day. Unhealthy. 

And there we have it. My list of things that I’ve been doing to get myself out of my rut. I’ll be the first to admit that this list needs a little help. But like I said, I’m human. Making this list has actually helped me to figure out the best ways for me to personally cope when I’m in a rut. And, ironically enough, it’s actually taken me out of it a little bit. So if you’ve got time, sit down and make a quick list of all the things you do when you’re feeling down for no reason (or for a reason you don’t/can’t admit or figure out). Be honest about all the things you do—the healthy things and the unhealthy things. And the next time you’re in a rut, refer to the list. Remind yourself of all the things that you normally do when you’re feeling down. I bet you’ll laugh at it, think you’re pathetic, do one or more of the things on the list, find something to do that isn’t on the list, or do some combination of all of those things.

The worst thing about being in a rut is that feeling you get of complete lack of self control. It’s like the rut controls everything you do and feel. With your already-compiled list, it’s like being one step ahead of the rut. You already know how it operates so even if you’re feeling down, you get to control what you do, how you’re going to feel during whatever you do and the consequence that it’s going to have. Not that damn rut. I think I may have stumbled on to something. Hmmm.

Let me know if this is as genius as I think it is.

It's August.

Last year when I went to New Orleans for Essence Festival 2012 I was so excited when I stumbled upon this artist. I was listening to the radio getting ready to head out of the hotel to attend one of the concerts. One song in particular caught my attention. It wasn't the typical New Orleans bounce music or mainstream urban music. I waited to leave my room in hopes that the DJ would say who it was. I was so glad when he said it was August Alsina because I knew he was going to become my new favorite underground singer. After the trip I began doing my research on who August was. I followed him on Twitter, liked, FaceBook page, and began to download all of his music. Listening to him made me smile every time because is voice was so smooth and different. Over time I got to figure out who he was and what he wanted musically and I was in love. 

He started as a YouTube singer 6 years ago. He would cover different songs that were popular at that time. He recently signed with Def Jam and is currently working with The Dream for his album. But while he is working on an album he is always releasing new music both covers and original. This week he released The Product 2. The songs aren't your typical R&B ballads because he isn't your typical R&B artist. He is very "New Orleans'. The streets are never far from his lyrics. He sings things you would normally here from rappers. It's refreshing to listen to someone singing about real life oppose to only sex and love. At only 20 years old Im so excited to see where he goes from here.

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