Merry Christmas from PGSD

All I want for Christmas is him?!

Here comes the obligatory in-my-feelings-girl-come-rescue-me post.

So its the holiday season and you are alone. Read: So its the holiday season and I am alone. 
Am I sad about this? No not really. Want to know why? I chose to be. 

Many menses have come a calling, but I am not really answering. Call it high standards, or indecisiveness. I call it the waiting game. I am sick of hearing friends stories of settling and their complaints about the guy they settled for, just so they could have a warm body next to them. Girl get a blanket. However, if my last situationship taught me anything, it is wait for something that feels right to you.

Part of the problem in my last situation, was me going along with something that didn't feel all the way right. He was a great guy don't get me wrong. He was flawed, as every man is, and eventually let his flaws do the proving his words couldn't that we just weren't ready/meant for each other. I allowed others to hype me up. Read: Mom and Friends (There is nothing worse than your mother approving of a guy you are on the fence about.) We had been friends for the longest, and were very hesitant about taking things to a new level. 

Here I am thinking that new level was going to be great for me and him. However, he thought it was a great level for me, him, her, and her. No. Nope. Not me. Not today.

Needless to say things went all the way left with that situation. Ending in several shouting matches and a single tear shed. I've never cried over a guy before. Crawled up in the fetal position and put on some Ne-Yo? Yes. Crying? Never. I just have never seen a man as irreplaceable  However, this guy I didn't think I would ever move past that betrayal.  Since then I've forgiven him, and like to think of the situation as a history class, long and drawn out, but never forgetting the lesson learned.

I say all of that to say, that I learned a lot about waiting for what is truly meant for you regardless of what anyone else thinks. That situation was an eye opener for me, that I will truly be ready to change that status, when it feels right to me, beyond anyone else's opinions or standards. So yes, its safe to assume that all I want for Christmas is 'him'. However, as in life, why look for 'him' in the past, when I can look forward to the 'him' of the future.

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Excuses are tools of the incompetent

Are you mature and honest enough to admit why you are single? You can go with the I haven't found the right person, I'm working on me, blah blah blah. No just no. There is some part of you that is wack and needs fixing. Find what part of you is undesirable and fix it. Or maybe you are setting your standards too high. Self honesty is often neglected and overlooked. This is not at all a read it is just to encourage you to be brutally honest. Its not fair to you if you continuously lie to yourself and use a bunch of cliches to justify the lies you have created in your head. Sometimes you are unapproachable, it could be your personality, maybe you're broke, busted, and disgusted. Maybe you attract people who are only interested in the physical because something about you that gives off the "I'm boring as hell" vibe. Tell the truth and find a way to fix it.

Bacon is love
Rev. Ash 

What if a dinosaur tripped you and you landed in a chickens money stash?

What if you stop saying “what if”? I’ve realized that we (because I sometimes do this as well) worry too much about things that we can’t control. Last time I checked we cannot predict the future, especially when others are involved. We can make different choice that may prevent certain situations from occurring but even that is not permanent. Lately friends who are worrying about things that they can’t control have been approaching me. “What if this…what if that,” “I don’t want this or that to happen”. These conversations are driving me crazy!

Due to my laid back mentality, it is very difficult for me to sit and listen to others woes about things that haven’t happened yet. So here’s my opinion on the things that have yet to come…

“I don’t want this to happen again. We’ve been through this before.”

The thing about cycles is that they will keep happening unless something changes. You don’t want it to happen again and yet you haven’t changed any of your actions. You don’t want things to change if you keep going about them the same way. Stop and look at what’s going on, reevaluate it, and go about it a different way.

“What if [insert nonsense here]”

What if it does happen? Are you going to stop living? Is your life going to say, “game over”? No! There’s never just one door. Things happen for a reason and it’s not so you can call me or that other friend you call with all your problems every time and cry until we get “disconnected”. Just kidding >_>. Seriously though life will get better. It’s all about your mentality. If you say today is going to be a shitty day…today will be shitty. There are a million reasons to smile. The best reason is that you woke up today. There are those who didn’t get that opportunity. What if you don’t wake up tomorrow? Are you content with what you have done? Don’t worry about tomorrow or yesterday. Worry about right now. “What if’s” are truly for the dead. I say this because if the only things you worry about are the things you cant control how can you live?

Please don’t rush life. Setting goals is one thing but only doing things that will help get you where you want to be won’t satisfy that emptiness inside you that was supposed to be filled with laughter and the smell of flowers. Stress is natural but not mandatory every minute. Breathe and have fun. I promise you will get where you’re going even if you stop and check out the scenery. Scouts honor. 

Devil in a New Dress

New Years Eve is quickly approaching and besides where to go a girls biggest decision is what to wear. Ive decided to help you out a bit. There are 3 categories of dresses: ballin on a budget for the fashionable yet budget conscious; work a little so you can ball a lot for those who have a few more ends to spend; and YOLO for those who swipe without looking at the price. Look around the sites I've linked and you might find something you like, but better suited to your budget and style.


Ballin on a budget
 Purchase here
This dress is sleek and impossibly sexy. For those not afraid to show a little skin you are sure to turn heads.

 Purchase here NYE is one of the few days of the year where you can wear full sequins without looking the fool. Take advantage and shine bright like a diamond.

Purchase here Let me tell you a contrast dress will create a shape where there are none. Turn those obtuse angles into some dangerous curves.

Work a little so you can ball a lot

Purchase here This dress covers a bit more, but has a gorgeous silhouette  and with the right accessories gives elegance and eleganza.

Purchase here After Labor Day be damned. Holiday chic and flawless cut? Get you Olivia Pope on and rock white.

Purchase here Cunt Fish. Bad Bitch

 Purchase here Soft, romantic textures with a touch of shine. Just say yes

YOLO

 Purchase here Ole nasty piece of sequin ball gown.

 Purchase here I love sequins dammit

 Purchase here Leather realness

Good luck and happy hunting!

Unique to Say the Least.

Its the time of year again. What can I get beside the matching scarf and gloves set? We always have difficulties when it comes to buying presents. Stop thinking inside the box and take a look out. Here are a few gift ideas I've come across that will be great for someone with a sense of humor or for the person who has everything. I bet you they dont have these gifts.

This is for the drinker in your family or the friend who is always ready for the next round. The DCI XL glass comes in wine, champagne, and beer size. These glasses hold entires bottles of your favorite alcoholic beverage. Sounds like a party starter (or ender) to me. On Amazon you can get them for about $10.

Booty butt cheeks! Know someone who loves to paint their nails? I bet they don't have nail polish bottles shaped like some nice ASSets. Thanks to SuperBooty, LLC you can purchase the Bootie Babe polish line. "Red Riding Rump," "Hella Hiney," and "Loose Caboose" are the polishes photoed above. Each bottle is $12. 

This right here is my favorite! When I was little I used to always put my hand to my ear and pretend as if I was talking on the phone. Hi-Call allows you to really talk to people using that same hand gesture with this glove. Thanks to bluetooth technology you can wirelessly connect your cell phone to the glove and talk through your hand. How cool! It will cost about $65.

This may not be a good gift for someone else but you might like this. I know I do. If you just got a new place and are not really into decorating but you will be having company around the holidays, heres the perfect solution. A collapsible Christmas tree is a easy way to spruce up your living room. Its already decorated and comes in a carrying case. It seems to be the new thing, so you should be able to find one easily and prices range from low to high. 

Vino2Go brings you the wine sippy cup! This is epic. So epic they've sold old in many places so it will take a little searching to find these babies. It makes transporting of wine easier...which I do believe is illegal, at least in Illinois. I think it makes the floor, especially carpet, a lot cleaner during this time of year. Theses are definitely a step up from children's sippy cups. About $15 per cup.

I hope this helped your gifting ideas. If not at least you got to see some interesting things that are out there. Happy Holiday!