We have our moments and then there's Jesus. Four girls who are all recent grads of esteemed universities are tossed into the real world and face the trials, tribulations, and hilarity of trying real life. We face all battles with a smile, but even we have to admit we don't know shit.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Bitch Just Be Happy!


 More and more I am noticing a trend among women. Too many women don't know how to just be happy especially when it comes to relationships. They are so emotionally damaged that they can’t believe when they have a decent thing going for them. They constantly search for something to be wrong in the relationship or harp on what has happened to them in the past and generalize the actions of one particular group. If you find yourself thinking well this has happened before it’s going to happen again then guess what.....I’m talking to you.

 Your current is not your ex. stop thinking that just because something happened in the past it’s going to happen again. Yes it is very possible, but when you create drama out of nothing just from fear or because you're so broken that you can’t take your partner for what they are at that time then you need not be in a relationship with them. You never know what a person is capable of until they do it, but when you project your insecurities from your past into your present relationship you stunt the growth of what could potentially be. If you find that you are encountering failed relationship after failed relationship you need to accept the fact that it might be you. We attract certain people into our lives and if you are constantly getting the same outcomes you need to evaluate yourself and what you are putting into a relationship. Are you deserving of a prince charming when on the inside you're still an evil stepsister. You will attract what you deserve when you cultivate those qualities in yourself.

When you constantly being up what has happened in your past and what your ex did to you, you are projecting your issues onto your current relationship. If you are afraid to even enter a relationship because what has happened before you will always be stuck in the same place. If your man has not wronged stop waiting on him to! True no relationship is perfect, but not everyone is getting shot straight to hell. When you go in thinking well "I know this niggard is going to cheat on me" you are already setting the stage for that to happen. They may have no ill intention, but thoughts have power good or bad. I’m not saying you made him cheat, but you get what outcomes you create.

Letting go is hard to do and it is completely necessary. Keep ya heart three stacks and always protect yourself, but under no circumstances should you keep yourself guarded. No one wants to get hurt, but it’s apart of love and relationships. If you constantly keep this fence around your heart you are going to end up with the same results. Eventually you will end up old and alone lmao ok not really, but you get what I’m saying. Man number 1 is not man number or 3 or 4. Everyone is different. This came from the issues in my own relationship because I don’t understand why women can’t accept that being in a relationship with me is VERY different from anyone else.

The moral of the story is bitch just be happy! If things are going great right now stop waiting for the other shoe to drop and enjoy what you have now. Something could happen or things could be peachy keen forever either way now is now and that needs to be your primary focus.

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