Are You A Convenience Friend?

Convenience Friend: A person who is only around when it is easy and convenient for them. They are the people who, if not placed around us all the time, they wouldn't really be friends. They are usually used to do things for you, if you need a ride to and from school. They are basically friends who need you around when they need a favor, or when they are just so bored out of their minds that they would rather hang out with you than sit around all day, but they'd never put you first. (Thank you Urban Dictionary for the definition)

The older I get the more I look at those around me. I have never been someone so starved for attention that I need a large amount of friends mainly because it’s hard for me to trust any and everyone. I don’t need more than my two hands to count who I consider my best friends. The remaining people I talk are sometimes friends depending on my mood or intoxication but most of the time they are associates…and they are only that because we end up at events together through mutual friends or because we were in school together. I call these friends my friends of convenience.

I will support anyone because I know the importance of doing so. If you ask me to come to an event, I will as long as I am available. Ask me to purchase something, I will as long as the price is reasonable and I have paid for my necessities. Excuses are for the incompetent and I am tired of hearing them. What’s even worse than the excuses is the blatant ignoring of things. Not even being able to come up with an excuse shows your lack of care. I’m not sure what to think of our relationship and I’m not willing to put any energy into it when you don’t.

PGSD was started in order to express our feeling on life after college and daily trial and tribulations we face. There are so many others going through the same things and we want to be that outlet to help and entertain. In building this blog we have noticed that the people we consider friends are appearing to be more convenience friends. We always attend events and donate when we are able to no matter how spur of the moment things may be. Now that we are beginning our PGSD journey we are noticing simple things like liking a FB page, reading a post, or attending a FREE promotional event seems to be very difficult. We thank all those who have at least done one of those things but to the others what is the problem? I wont be petty and name names, but just know that you should not expect me to continue to support your events. “Friend” is not just a word it is a title that someone gives you because they trust and care about you. There’s a difference between being friends on a social network and personally having a friendship with someone. Its time to be honest and decide, am I a good friends and who is a good friend to me?

Walter Winchell once said, “A friend is one who walks in when others walk out”. I may see a lot of backs at the moment but I also see a number of fronts and I want to thank you all for the constant support.